9 Best Prostate Massagers to Try for Deep, Intense Orgasms
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When it comes to anal sex, let’s not forget about prostate massagers, y’all. These curved sex toys are designed to hit the prostate (a.k.a. the P-spot), the walnut-sized gland that lies inside the pelvis behind the penis and that’s packed with nerve endings that can feel really good when stimulated. Whether you’re giving or receiving: In order to help determine the best prostate massager for your personal needs, we got some advice from sex experts and educators.
What should you consider when shopping for a prostate massager?
There are all sorts of prostate massagers, including ones with rumbly vibrations, variable speeds, and remote controls. If you’re shopping for your first, choose one that has a rounded end, which is gentler on the rectum, Carol Queen, PhD, a sex educator with Good Vibes, tells SELF. It should also be on the smaller, slimmer side, so you can get used to the feeling of anal insertion. She recommends starting with a toy that has about the girth of a finger and then optionally moving up from there.
Any toy you use should be made of nonporous, body-safe materials like medical-grade silicone, stainless steel, or lucite. Importantly, “[A prostate toy] must have a flared base so it doesn’t slip inside,” says Dr. Queen. And be sure to use lube, as the anus doesn’t self-lubricate.
The best prostate massagers
Here, we’ve highlighted the best prostate massagers according to experts and shoppers.
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Best Overall: We-Vibe Vector+
This L-shaped toy has powerful dual motors, so its internal and external arms pulse against the prostate and perineum (the sensitive region between the anus and genitals). Megan Fleming, PhD, a psychologist and AASECT-certified sex therapist, previously told SELF that the Vector is well-suited for partnered or solo play; you control it through an app on your phone (rather than feeling around for buttons on the toy), which allows for long-distance sex and can make masturbation easier too.
Pros: Remote- and app-controllable, dual motors, waterproof
Cons: Pricey - Lelo2
Best Luxury Pick: Lelo Hugo
Lelo shoppers praise the “incredibly powerful toy for the way it offers a just-right feeling of fullness. The standout feature, however, is Lelo’s high-tech, intuitive remote control, which intensifies the toy’s vibrations with the tilting of your wrist. “The handheld remote is a game changer in revving up to out-of-this-world prostate orgasms,” one Lelo shopper writes. Dr. Queen notes that this toy may not be the best for beginners, since its tip is quite bulbous. If you’re new to prostate massagers, “You’ll really need to concentrate on relaxing,” she says. “But with a little lube, it should be okay.”
Pros: Remote-controllable, waterproof, dual motors
Cons: Pricey
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Best for Beginners: Aneros MGX Syn Trident
Lisa Finn, a brand manager at Babeland, recommends the MGX Trident, which is gently contoured to hit the prostate and has tabs that flare out to add extra sensation to the perineum. “You can comfortably massage internally and externally at once—up and down or in and out, in any position,” Finn tells SELF. The MGX is only one inch thick and 3.5 inches long, which shoppers say is a comfortable starting point for beginners. They also rave about the toy’s ribbed stem, saying it sends a pleasurable “tingling sensation” through their body during withdrawal.
Pros: Dual external stimulation, ribbed base, waterproof, easy to clean
Cons: It can take time to adjust to pivoting the toy with the clenching of your pelvic floor muscles (versus letting it do the thrusting for you) - Lovehoney4
Best Weighted Pick: Njoy Pure Wand
The combination of the Pure Wand’s density, insertable length (eight inches), and arched shape is ideal for applying a deep-reaching, targeted pressure to the P-spot, Finn says.
Carolanne Marcantonio, LCSW, an AASECT-certified sex therapist, also praises its heaviness for helping create a pleasantly full feeling. “The weight of it effortlessly drops into the prostate,” she tells SELF. She adds that its stainless steel material is “fantastic” for anal sex because it warms and cools quickly, in case you want to experiment with temperature play.
Pros: Discreet, great for temperature play, waterproof, easy to clean
Cons: Might be too rigid for beginners, pricey - Fun Factory5
Best for Anyone Experienced With Anal: Fun Factory Duke Prostate Vibrator
The Duke offers P-spot and perineal pressure, two vibrational speeds, and three patterns to cycle between. There’s even a cavity that can hold a bullet vibrator for added sensation. The S-shaped toy bulges at one end with 4.4 inches of girth—a big step up in size from most prostate massagers, so it’s best suited to someone more familiar and comfortable with anal sex.
Pros: Waterproof, girthy
Cons: Not for beginners
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Best for Fingering: Lelo Loki Wave
The Loki Wave’s curve mimics the come-hither motion of a finger inside the anus, while its rabbit-style, outer arm strokes the perineum for dual pleasure. Lelo shoppers love the pulling sensation, combined with the toy’s 10 different vibrations—“from feathery tickles to stout rumbles,” one wrote in a review.
Pros: Dual motors, fast-charging
Cons: Pricey, controls are tricky to navigate - Aneros7
Most Powerful Prostate Massager: Aneros Vice 2
Dr. Queen likes this Aneros massager because it combines the brand’s signature design (an insertable body, plus a two-armed base) with the addition of a huge range of settings for sensation experimentation—18 vibrational patterns, in fact, with four varying speeds.
Pros: Remote-controllable, dual motors, tons of vibrations, waterproof
Cons: Pricey - Good Vibes8
Most Affordable Prostate Massager: Optimale P-Massager
Whether you’re on a budget or new to prostate play, you don’t have to spend a ton to test it out. The Optimale is a no-frills prostate massager with a similar design to an Aneros toy, but with a ring in its base that makes it easy to remove. Both Dr. Queen and Marcantonio like that it’s made of silicone, which is a softer material (than, say, stainless steel or glass). “It’s not as firm, which could be a preferable sensation for some,” Dr. Queen says.
Pros: Easy-pull handle, waterproof, affordable
Cons: Too simple for the experienced person
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Best for Added Pressure: Njoy Fun Wand
The Fun Wand is similar to the Pure Wand but with a line of graduated anal beads at one end. “As the beads are removed, they arouse the sensitive nerve endings of the sphincter muscle,” Alicia Sinclair, the CEO of sex toy company B-Vibe, previously told SELF. “This stimulation creates a series of pleasurable sensations, like having a muscle massaged.” The Fun Wand is also half as light as the Pure Wand—which could help keep your arm from getting tired if you’re holding it over a long period of time.
Pros: Lightweight, great for temperature play, waterproof, easy to clean
Cons: Might be too rigid for beginners
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