10 Strap-Ons That Are Great From Top to Bottom
Whether you’re a top, bottom, vers, or hoping to find out, you’ve come to the right place if you’re looking for a new toy. Using a strap-on is a hot way to explore anal play and power dynamics—and straps are, of course, a regular part of life for many queer people. Because there are so many options to choose from, we spoke to sex experts and scoured customer reviews to figure out everything you need to know about buying the best strap-on for you, whether you’re getting your first one or your twentieth.
What is a strap-on?
A strap-on is basically a harness that can hold a dildo, which allows you to give (or receive) hands-free anal or vaginal penetration. They typically come in two main styles: jockstrap harnesses and underwear harnesses. “Jockstrap harnesses have straps that go around the waist and thighs, which makes them secure, comfortable, and flexible for different kinds of play,” Shadeen Francis, LMFT, an AASECT-certified sex therapist, tells SELF. They tend to be the most adjustable, making it easier for people across various body shapes and sizes to find the right fit. Underwear harnesses, which look (and are sized like) regular undies, have a built-in harness for a dildo.
Apart from these two popular styles, there are also harnesses that fit chins, thighs, and hands. Some harnesses are fashioned like suspenders or corsets, and there are even strapless strap-ons (which require no harness at all).
What to consider when shopping for a strap-on
When you’re buying a strap-on, you usually shop for the harness and dildo separately. But if you’re new to strap-ons or just want something super easy, plenty of beginner kits include both pieces. These sets from Lovehoney and Tracey Cox are excellent, affordable options.
If you go the route of choosing your dildo and strap-on individually, Francis recommends you factor in sizing, comfort, and material. Underwear-style harnesses are often softer to wear, Carol Queen, PhD, who works at the sex toy store Good Vibrations, tells SELF. If you’re using a larger dildo (over two inches in girth or eight inches in length), opt for a sturdier harness, like a jockstrap, with straps you can tighten for more support.
You’ll also want to take a look at the O-ring, which is the rubber, metal, or nitrile ring that secures the dildo. Some harnesses include multiple O-rings of different sizes that you can swap in and out, while others have elastic ones that can stretch to accommodate a variety of dildos. To figure out the best O-ring size for your dildo, you can use this handy Lovehoney calculator.
The best strap-ons
Below are the 10 best strap-ons and harnesses options. We made sure that all these picks are body-safe, highly rated, and follow our experts’ guidelines.
All products featured on SELF are independently selected by our editors. However, when you buy something through our retail links, we may earn an affiliate commission.
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Best Overall Strap-On: SpareParts Joque Harness
Four experts that we spoke to praised the Joque for its fit, features, and comfort. “This harness offers great support and is adjustable for different body sizes and toys,” Jennifer Litner, PhD, an AASECT-certified sex therapist and founder of Embrace Sexual Wellness, tells SELF. And Dr. Queen particularly likes that its O-ring is made of a flexible elastic, so you can swap in different dildo sizes.
It comes with two internal pockets for bullet vibes. You can stow one vibrator in a pocket above the O-ring to add a “pleasurable buzz” to the wearer and their partner’s genitals in a face-to-face position, Dr. Queen says. The second vibrator (which sits against the perineum or across the labia) can stimulate the genitals of the person being penetrated in front-to-back positions like reverse cowgirl.
Accessories included: Adjustable jockstrap harness (fits waists 20 to 50 inches); built-in elastic O-ring
- Lovehoney2
Best Strap-On Kit for Anal Sex Beginners: Lovehoney Beginner’s Unisex Strap-On Harness Kit
This Lovehoney set is a nice option for people who are new to receiving anal penetration. It includes the essentials: a machine-washable harness and a dildo on the shorter side, so the recipient can get used to the sensation. Plus, it’s under $50 and has a pocket inside the harness that can hold a bullet vibrator.
Accessories included: Adjustable jockstrap harness (18 to 68 inches); dildo (5-inch); three O-rings
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- PinkCherry3
Most Adjustable Harness for Different Body Sizes: Sportsheets Divine Diva Plus-Size Harness
Compared to many harnesses that only adjust up to around 60 inches, this Sportsheets strap-on extends up to 82 inches (the largest on our list). Many PinkCherry shoppers recommended the streamlined harness for its sizing: “I’m a curvy woman and have had five harnesses over the years,” one reviewer wrote. “The Divine is very adjustable, has comfortable front and back padded support, and stays in place regardless of the movements of either the giver or receiver.”
Accessories included: Adjustable jockstrap harness (fits waists 28 to 82 inches); three O-rings
- Good Vibrations4
Best Strap-On for Rabbit Vibrator: Happy Rabbit Vibrating Strap-On Set
The rabbit vibrator—one of the most popular styles of sex toys—has ears that can stimulate the clit while simultaneously sliding its shaft inside for G-spot action. This versatile set comes with a rabbit vibe that has a flared base (unlike most classic rabbits), so you can fit it inside the included harness’s O-ring and it won’t slip out. You also have the option to switch in a dildo or simply use the vibrator on its own.
Accessories included: Adjustable jockstrap harness (fits waists up to 67 inches); vibrating rabbit dildo (5-inch); three O-rings
- The Pleasure Chest5
Best Vibrating Strap-On: Pegasus Curved Ripple Harness Set
This set is a favorite of Heather Shannon, LCPC, a certified sex therapist and host of the podcast Ask a Sex Therapist. It comes with a basic, adjustable harness, but it’s the vibrating dildo that’s the star of the show. The Pegasus has a shaft that’s curved enough to hit the G-spot or P-spot, and it’s completely remote-controllable from up to 30 feet away. You or your partner can choose from 15 exciting vibrations and 6 speeds.
Accessories included: Adjustable jockstrap harness (fits waists up to 67 inches); vibrating remote-controllable dildo (6-inch); suction cup base; three O-rings
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- Lovehoney6
Best Strapless Strap-On: Lovehoney Desire Luxury Rechargeable Strapless Strap-On Vibrator
The expert-recommended strapless strap-on is ideal for people who want to experience penetration while also penetrating someone else. The Desire vibrator has two ends: a curved end to fit inside the wearer’s vagina (with rabbit ears for clit stimulation) and a phallus-shaped end. The design allows you to stay in control without all the fuss of fastening on straps.
Accessories included: Vibrator; lockable storage case
- Lovehoney7
Best Strap-On for Anal Sex: Tracey Cox Supersex Strap-On Pegging Kit
If you’re trying to get into butt play, Lovehoney shoppers highly recommend this Tracey Cox set. “The well-constructed harness, choice of two dildos, and added bullet vibrator make the kit a great value for couples looking to embark on their pegging journey,” one reviewer writes. It’s also a top pick for Megan Fleming, PhD, a psychologist and AASECT-certified sex therapist, who appreciates that it’s easy to wash and comes in a larger fit.
Accessories included: Adjustable jockstrap harness (fits waists up to 65 inches); two dildos (4.5- and 6-inch); three O-rings; bullet vibrator
- SheVibe8
Best Underwear Strap-On: CalExotics Packer Gear Harness Boxer
These boxers can function as your everyday undies, and none would be the wiser. But when the mood strikes, they have a sewn-in O-ring that’s strong enough to support a dildo (or double dildo, which penetrates the wearer and partner simultaneously).
As a bonus, the harness is also thoughtfully designed with an internal strap that snugly secures packers in place. “As someone who struggles with my body image being trans, these are perfect for me,” one Lovehoney shopper writes. “They’re super comfy on my body, great for holding my packer, and help me feel less conscious of how I look so I can just enjoy time with my partner.”
Accessories included: Underwear harness (available in sizes XS/S to L/XL); one built-in cock ring
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- As You Like It9
Best Underwear Strap-On for Femmes: SpareParts Sasha Couture Harness
If you’re looking for a strap-on that’s more femme, Dr. Queen likes the Sasha Couture, an underwear-style harness embellished with ribbons, lace, and garters. It has the sleek fit of panties with sewn-in panels that hold a dildo and two pouches for bullet vibes. “The Sasha harness is gorgeous to look at, more comfortable than most underwear, multifunctional, and easy to care for," writes one reviewer. “The back panels of the pouch area can be moved to accommodate double-ended dildos or to allow someone to keep the base of the dildo flush against their body.”
Accessories included: Underwear harness (available in sizes XS to 3XL)
- Amazon10
Best Strap-On for Double Penetration: SpareParts Deuce Harness
The Deuce is designed with two rings, meaning a penis can go through one hole and a dildo through the other for double penetration. Dr. Queen notes that this strap-on has a built-in pouch that’s useful for anyone who wants to tuck away their penis without it getting squished by the dildo’s base.
Accessories included: Adjustable jockstrap harness (fits waists 20 to 50 inches); two built-in cock rings
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