Relationships
Health
How to Stop Lashing Out at the People Closest to You
No, you’re not a monster. Yes, your anger is manageable.
By Samantha Vincenty
Culture
3 Things to Do If You Just Snapped at Your Mom and Feel Like an Asshole
No, you’re not a bad person.
By Cathryne Keller
Jane Fonda’s Tip for Making Real Friends as You Get Older Makes So Much Sense
She even offered a script for what to say to potential besties.
By Maggie O'Neill
Love
5 Ways to Keep Your Friendships Strong—Even When Life Is Hectic
Consider creating a new bonding ritual.
By Samantha Vincenty
Love
5 Practical Tips to Prevent Technology From Destroying Your Relationship
Without having to delete TikTok, of course.
By Nikki Campo
The 41 Best Anniversary Gifts by Year for Any Couple
Thoughtful, romantic presents for both partners.
By Malia Griggs and Elsa Cavazos
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Culture
105 Gifts Your Boyfriend Will Actually Want to Receive
Like a compact pizza oven, handsome Polaroid, and top-tier headphones.
64 slides
By Sarah Madaus and Tasneem Anjarwalla
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Culture
78 Gifts for Girlfriends That Are Sure to Charm
One of a kind, just like her.
52 slides
By Malia Griggs and Sarah Madaus
72 Excellent Gifts for All the Men in Your Life
From dads to boyfriends to brothers.
By Sara Coughlin and Malia Griggs
That’s a no for me dawg
Everyone Has Relationship Deal-Breakers. Here’s How to Identify Yours
Plus the best, non-awkward ways to bring them up.
By Jenna Ryu and Kasandra Brabaw
Life
How to Grieve and Eventually Move On After a Friend Dumps You
Confusion, anger, and sadness are totally normal when you’ve lost your person.
By Jenna Ryu
Love
Are You Dealing With a Narcissist or Just an Asshole?
There’s a difference between insensitive behavior and straight up manipulation.
By Samantha Vincenty
Love
Kelly Clarkson Says Her Divorce Felt ‘Freeing’ Despite Being ‘Incredibly Sad’
“I never experienced grief like that,” the singer revealed in an Apple Music interview.
By Kayla Blanton
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Kelly Clarkson’s 3 Romantic Red Flags Are Relatable as Hell
“No friends? That’s weird,” she said in a recent TikTok.
By Kayla Blanton
Love
4 Signs of Toxic Jealousy You Should Never Ignore
There’s a difference between caring and controlling.
By Jenna Ryu
No we’re talkin’
18 Ways to Get Really, Really Good at Phone Sex
Don’t let a little awkwardness stop you—it can be so, so worth it.
By Sofia Barrett-Ibarria and Patia Braithwaite
Moment of truth
Your Partner Lied to You. Here’s How to Trust Them Again.
Resist the urge to keep checking their texts.
By Jenna Ryu
Real talk
How to Vent to Your Friends Without Bringing Them Down
Gentle reminder that your BFF is not your therapist.
By Jenna Ryu
Pardon you
How to Actually Forgive Yourself
No matter what you did, you can move past it.
By Patia Braithwaite and Samantha Vincenty
Watch it, pal
8 Friendship Red Flags You Really Shouldn’t Ignore
Beware of a “bestie” who keeps one-upping you.
By Jenna Ryu
Historical fiction
How to Stop Romanticizing the Past So You Can Enjoy Your Life Right Now
Was the grass really so much greener back in the day?
By Jay Deitcher
Human resources
How to Feel Less Lonely at Work
It’s hard to spend most of your waking hours with people you don't click with.
By Gyan Yankovich
How to Turn Down a Friends' Trip If You Can't Afford It
A financial therapist offers her best (least-awkward) advice.
By Lindsay Bryan-Podvin, LMSW
So far, so good
How to Keep Your Long-Distance Relationship Healthy, Happy, and Hot
It does take work, but it can absolutely be worth it.
By Samantha Vincenty
Mother f*cker
The Exhausted Parent’s Guide to Having Great Sex More Often
Yes, you’re still hot. No, you can’t just expect it’ll happen spontaneously.
By Samantha Vincenty
Space heater
You Don’t Necessarily Need to Leave Your House to Have a Hot Date Night
Our garage bar invigorated our marriage. For you, maybe it’s the living room floor.
By Katie Arnold-Ratliff
Coming apart
My Partner and I Sleep in Separate Twin Beds and It Saved Our Sex Life
You know what’s hot? Feeling well-rested as hell.
By Samantha Vincenty
Conservation efforts
15 Relationship Tips From People Who’ve Been Together for 20-Plus Years
Never criticize your partner's body and be "yay” for each other.
By Lisa Butterworth
Fire starters
How to Stop a Sex Rut From Becoming a Full-On Sex Crater
It’s all about staying connected with your partner through the slump.
By Ro White